Alright, let’s first get the definitions of these terms out of the way, and establish the context in which I am referring: Human Interaction, Behaviour … the individual, social effects… anything relating to humans and the environments in which they interact with one another.
the ability or willingness to tolerate something; in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with.
the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered; the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group.
the ability to understand something; comprehension; sympathetically aware of other people’s feelings; tolerant and forgiving.
Where this journey begins is challenging to determine – at what point does one become conscious of one’s own thoughts?
I don’t mean that inner voice or day-to-day thinking; I mean when you stop to introspect upon your thoughts and where and why they form; the stimulus in your experiences of life. I know sounds hokey pokey psychoanalytic jibber-jabber nonsensical philosophical epistemological … who cares, right?
If you don’t care, how do you decide what is relevant without introspection? is consideration just as equal? and how much consideration or introspection is sufficient?
I’d say to the point where it doesn’t cause pain or suffering, but if it does cause pain or suffering to introspect, then I’d suggest that you consider seeking professional help – as it may be a sign of unhealthy thoughts and feelings. And if you still disagree, then feel free to assert your position or let it be…
Why I intellectually obsess over various aspects of life is because of a natural curiosity that exists within me, a need to make sense of the world – we all possess this need to understand our external world, and I wonder how many other people seek to understand connections of the external world to their internal perception.
Whether you want to know, accept, or acknowledge that there is a commonality among all humans is up-to-you; you can reject others thoughts, but if you’ve not taken the time to consider them in the context of their perspective, does that make you close-minded?
What is conducive to living life varies from person to person, but the basic sustenance we all require remains the same on a biological level; how we meet our psychological needs is another matter of discussion for another day.
Ultimately, what matters most is empirical evidence, as in if you believe someone hates you, and you ask them if they do, and they tell you “no of course not – why would you think that?” – is that empirical enough or would you doubt the sincerity or genuineness of the other person saying it?
More so, does it really matter what others think of you? Not really, but I often wonder why it seems contempt is often irreconcilable – if we could understand the various perspectives, motivations and influences of individual people and see how social interactions play out (intensify or deescalate).
Having tolerance to accept and understand is part my journey to make sense of this world – my perspective changes as I discover newer perspectives and test the sanity of my internal world against the insanity of the external world.
Also published on Medium.